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A Thought for Today: Creating Yourself





Life isn’t about finding yourself.

Life is about creating yourself.

George Bernard Shaw


“Finding oneself” has become a bit of a cliche in our times, and while it always sounds like good advice, the truth is, we’re never lost. We’re always right here with ourselves, and most likely, we’re where we’re supposed to be.

Where we are at any given moment is the result of many things: choices we’ve made, thoughts and beliefs we hold, our dreams, our desires, and our willingness to pursue them. We might not always like where we are, but it’s not because we are lost. It’s because we’ve lost sight of who we can be.

Life is filled with wondrous possibilities, and each new day brings opportunities for us to create the future we want to live. It doesn’t matter where we’ve been in the past, nor does it matter where we are today. Wherever we are in life, it can become a starting point. We can begin the journey toward tomorrow and all we hope to be.

Create the life you want to live.



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A Thought for Today: Dream Big

When you dream...


I’ve been thinking a lot lately about dreams. We’re reminded every day of the need to have a dream.  Go to Google, plug in “quotes about dreams”, and you’ll quickly come up with over 95 million results.

Yes, dreams — and our pursuit of them — are important. They’re part of who we are, part of what brings us the happiness and the sense of accomplishment we all need.

Maybe now in this age of “internet motivation” it’s no longer enough to have a dream. Perhaps what we should focus on are reminders of how powerful dreams can be, and most of all, how important it is that we dream big.

Don’t settle for little dreams. Let them serve as stepping stones to bigger dreams. Celebrate each small accomplishment, but don’t stop there. Keep moving. Keep following your heart. Always keep dreaming.


How big are YOUR dreams?


The Game of Life

What’s the question for today? I don’t know yet. I’m sitting here in MLWR — my little writing room — with my little “Questions and Answers” book on my lap. I’m enjoying a quiet moment before I open it and turn to today’s date.

I love to wonder about the question. Will it be something amusing? Something fun to answer? Or will I find myself face-to-face with a difficult, challenging issue in my life? Will answering it embarrass me?

Opening this little book is both exciting and frightening. What will today’s question be?

Oh, boy. It’s a crazy, fill-in-the-blank question.

Today you destroyed___________________.


I can honestly say, “nothing…so far.”  It’s only 5:15 AM, so I haven’t had much time for destruction.

PiratesLooking back over the last 24 hours, however, I can actually find quite a few things I destroyed. Yesterday afternoon, a grandson and I turned on the Wii and spent several hours playing Pirates of the Caribbean, and I happily bashed boxes, crates, furniture — and yes, a few Lego people, too.

In the process, we also “destroyed” a few Cherry Ice Popsicles. He loves the treats I’ve been making — and yes, you can watch for more recipes coming soon.

Mario_Party_8We also played a Mario Party game.  It was my first time playing, and I found it both frustrating and fun. Video games move quickly — especially with a 9-year-old at the controls. It was difficult to keep up with him, and for several mini-games, the contest was over before I’d even figured out what I was supposed to do.

There was a little destruction in the Mario game, too: a bit of paint-ball shooting, attempts to block opponents (both real-life and computer-generated) from achieving goals, and, inevitably, a little crushing disappointment at not always winning.

Yes, folks, I’m a mean grandmother. I don’t let the grandkids win. In the Mario game, I took first place in a “float-your-boat-down-the river” mini-game, and I won another, as well. For anyone who’s played these games before and who is familiar with the characters, I was playing as “Daisy”. She’s not the modest sort, I learned. After each victory she loudly proclaimed, “I am the winner!”

Overall, Daisy did come out in first place, even after the random”bonus stars” were awarded. I saw the let-down in our grandson’s eyes. I heard the touch of sadness in his voice. Although some people disagree with me, I viewed it as a learning experience, an opportunity to remind him that “we can’t always win.”

It’s true, not just with video games, board games, or card games, but in life. Sometimes, we lose.

The ability to accept losses is important, I believe. Children grow stronger when they’re given opportunities to face little disappointments and rise above them. There’s no shame in losing when you’ve done your best. There’s certainly no shame in losing a game of chance where luck, not skill, is the winning factor.

In my opinion, what matters most in playing games is playing fairly.  Games are meant to be fun, not to serve as contests to see who’s better than another. Sometimes we’ll win, sometimes we’ll lose, and we need to know how to do both graciously.


It’s been said that life is a game. Whether you see it that way or not, the same principles apply.

  • Play fair.
  • Learn to lose.
  • Win with grace.


Thanks for visiting with me today.

I’d love to hear your thoughts.

Do you let children win at games?

And, by the way, what have you destroyed today?



Sing Your Song

A few days ago one of my readers from “Christina’s Corner” tagged me in a little Facebook posting game.  I call it the “ABC” game. There were questions for each letter of the alphabet, all the way from “Age” to “Zodiac sign”.

Two of the questions were especially interesting to me.

  • Favorite song?
  • Song sung last?

For me, it was impossible to choose a favorite song.  I listen to many different genres of music, and there again, it would be impossible to choose a favorite.

The Greek philosopher Plato once said,

Music gives soul to the universe, wings to the mind, flight to the imagination, a charm to sadness, gaiety and life to everything. It is the essence of order and lends to all that is good and just and beautiful.

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I love sharing music with others, so I’m browsing around a bit and finding a few songs that I especially enjoy.

By the River from Florida Suite – Frederick Delius

Collide – Howie Day

Daybreak from Daphnis et Chloe – Maurice Ravel

Drops of Jupiter – Train

Farewell – Apocalyptica

Killing Moon – Echo and the Bunnymen

No Excuses – Alice in Chains

Nothing Else Matters – Metallica

When I Could Come Home to You – Steve Wariner

Willowbank – Rudy Adrian

Listening to music can stimulate us, soothe us, inspire us. But there’s much more to music than listening, which brings me to the second question.

Song last sung. When I answered the question on Facebook, I’d just come into my writing room, humming a little jingle from a television commercial I’d heard earlier. I do enjoy singing. I sing along with songs on the radio, and during a typical day, I might belt out a line or two as different songs cross my mind.

Singing is important. I’ve heard it said that “a singing heart is a happy heart”, and isn’t that something we all want for ourselves and those we love?

Today, music therapy is recognized as a valuable part of the healing process. It’s now an accepted fact that music can be used to help treat anxiety, depression, and chronic pain. It affects not only our hearts and minds, but also the physical body. Music can help lower blood pressure, cortisol levels, and heart rate.

SeegerIn addition, music is a vital element of social change. Late folk-singer Pete Seeger brought people together in sing-alongs, wanting to “get the world together” through music. “Participation,” he once said, was “what will save the human race.”

Studies suggest that exposure to pro-social lyrics does increase positive thoughts, empathy, and a willingness to help others.

When disaster strikes, musicians often come together. Today, many organizations use the power of music to heal and help. Musicorps seeks to heal disabled vets through teaching music. Rock Against Dystrophy organizes concerts to raise money for the Muscular Dystrophy Association.

Music is not only a part of life, in so many ways, music is life. It’s our heart and soul, it’s our memories, our hopes, our dreams.

It doesn’t matter if you “can’t carry a tune in a bucket”. Sing…sing a song today. Sing from the heart.


La, la, la, la, la… I’ll leave you with this little song.

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A Thought for Today: One Small Step


The secret to reaching your dreams


I love this inspiring reminder. Often, one more step is all it takes to make a dream come true. Yet even if your dreams are still far away, the secret to reaching this is, indeed, to keep moving  closer every day.

It may be a small little step, or it may be a giant leap. You may advance with confidence; you may move quietly and cautiously. You might even stumble now and then, but it’s all right. Pick yourself up and keep going.

It’s the forward motion that matters.

One step leads to another, and that’s how dreams come true.


Take a step toward YOUR dream today!

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A Thought for Today: A Beautiful Day





Just a note to wish you a day filled with joy.

Life gives us so much.  Each day is a new beginning, filled with wonder and the possibility of miracles. Let’s be grateful for all we’ve been given: our families, our friends, the abundant blessing of life, itself.

Look for happiness, believe in magic, and expect wonderful things to happen today.



Keep it Simple

One of the most important things I’ve learned over the course of my life is the wisdom of keeping things simple.  I don’t know why it is, but we humans have a tendency to overcomplicate our lives. Why do you think that happens? I’ve pondered over it a bit, and I haven’t come up with any good answers.

Speaking of answers, perhaps you’ve heard of “Occam’s Razor” or “Ockham’s Razor” as it’s sometimes spelled. If you’re not familiar with the concept, please don’t look it up online. If you do, you run the risk of stumbling across this monstrous definition from Merriam-Webster:

…a scientific and philosophic rule that entities should not be multiplied unnecessarily which is interpreted as requiring that the simplest of competing theories be preferred to the more complex or that explanations of unknown phenomena be sought first in terms of known quantities.

Egads! What in the heck is that supposed to mean?

Despite the mumbo-jumbo and scientific jargon, the answer is simple. Really. The principle of Occam’s Razor is that, as often as not, the simple answer is usually right. It’s a philosophical concept that begs us not to complicate matters unnecessarily. William of Occam, a 14th-century Franciscan friar, was advising folks to “keep it simple.”

Although his thoughts were directed toward philosophers grappling with metaphysical theories — according to Alan Baker, at least — I believe the rule can be understood and applied in the context of everyday life.

Recently I came across this excellent visual reminder of the need to keep things simple.
Yes, it really is that simple.  Life isn’t meant to be a struggle. It’s not intended to be fraught with complications. Let’s save the drama for fiction — where it rightfully belongs — and enjoy the simple pleasures of an uncomplicated life.


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Why do we complicate so many things?