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The Cosmos is Revolving

An_Eye_For_Synchronicity__58383_zoomSynchronicity is such a fascinating thing!

Whenever I see it at work in my life, I do a quick double-take. “Did that just happen?” I ask myself.

I learned years ago to take note of apparent “coincidences”. Life often speaks to us through such means.

What is “synchronicity”? Glad you asked.



The word can be broken down into its separate parts.

  • SYN – A prefix meaning united or joining together
  • CHRONO – A combining form relating to time
  • ICITY – A suffix used to form abstract nouns from adjectives

In other words, SYNCHRONICITY is a concept that relates to things happening at the same time. It’s almost a synonym — there’s that prefix again — for COINCIDENCE, but in my experience synchronicity has a more definite sense about it. When it occurs, I can’t help but feel that some unseen hand is guiding events, leading me directly to places where I’m supposed to be, showing me lessons that I need to learn.

The word was first coined by Carl Jung to describe an “acasual connection of two or more psycho-physic phenomena”… whew!  That’s a rather long-winded way of saying the same thing, but if you’d like to read more about Jung and his theories — as well as the golden scarab that inspired his thinking — you’ll find it all here:

Carl Jung Resources


In simpler terms, he described synchronicity this way:

A meaningful coincidence of two or more events where something other than the probability of chance is involved.

He believed that synchronicity is a part of life and that we should be mindful of its presence:

Synchronicity is an ever-present reality for those who have eyes to see.

Years ago, a good friend first taught me about the principle of synchronicity, and I’ve always loved his short, simple definition. “The cosmos is revolving,” he used to say, referring to those strange moments when life suddenly seems to have a theme, when everything you see or do seems to be pointing in one direction.

YESIt’s also been called “alignment with the divine”.

We must learn not only to open our eyes but to open our hearts. Synchronicity can guide us when we remove the expectations that so often limit us.

Synchronicity is all about possibilities, and it’s a great adventure in life.

Someone once remarked that synchronicity is life’s way of saying, “You’re getting warmer…”

Or maybe it really is life shouting “Yes!”

The day is still early, but already my morning has been filled with an awesome synchronicity. Life seems to be calling me in a specific direction, and I’ll gladly follow to see where this adventure will lead.  Life is teaching me to go another step, to do a little more, to give a little more, to add an extra bit of effort to everything in my life.

Today I’ll be looking for ways to follow that guidance.

I’ll do more than serve dinner; I’ll set the table with a special centerpiece.

I’ll do more than think about a friend; I’ll send a greeting.

I’ll do more than exist; I’ll live this day as fully as I can.

Synchronicity is, indeed, a marvelous, fascinating thing…not just an abstract concept or a theoretical principle, but a very real fact of life. I hope you’ll remain open to those moments of synchronicity that come into your life…and I hope you’ll follow wherever they lead.

Thank you for visiting today!

May your day be filled with joy and happiness.



A Thought for Today: Peace of Mind

Peace of mind

There is no greater wealth in this world than peace of mind. 

I believe this is true. After all our struggles for riches and worldly success, we’ll always finds ourselves poor in spirit until we realize that real wealth — and happiness — comes from within. It comes from knowing who we are and being at peace with our self.

Life is best lived with balance and wholeness, and the curious thing is that we can only find peace of mind when we listen to our heart.

What is your heart telling you today?


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A Thought for Today: Change



If nothing ever changed, there would be no butterflies.

Sometimes we get stuck in ruts in life. Sometimes we feel that things will never change. Truthfully, changes are taking place around us — and within us — each day. Even though the positive changes we desire may seem slow in coming, we can recognize and celebrate every small step we take toward our goals.

Butterflies have long been a symbol of change and transformation. It’s amazing to see the process taking place.

Life caterpillars morphing into butterflies, we are continually in a process of becoming. We change, we grow, we learn. It’s not always easy, and sometimes we’ll struggle, but if we stay focused on the positive results we seek, we can become who and what we hope to be.


Who are you becoming?

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A Thought for Today: Choices


Life is the sum of all your choices – Albert Camus

Although we may sometimes feel as if life is something that happens to us, the truth is we play a role in creating our future through the choices we make. Each day, we make choices that affect our health, our happiness, our relationships.

Wise choices can bring us closer to the life we want; poor choices leave us struggling to get through each day.

Most of the time, we know what’s right. We know healthy foods are better for us than fattening desserts. We know it’s important to get enough rest. We know the importance of treating others with kindness. Yet time after time, we make choices we later regret.

At other times, we simply make wrong choices. Maybe we misjudged someone or something. Maybe we didn’t have all the information we needed. For whatever reason, our choice proved not to bring us the happiness we expected. It happens.

So make choices today that you won’t regret…and when you make a mistake, learn from it and make new choices for tomorrow.


What choices are you making today?

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Make a Mess!


I say these words over and over because they’re so very true. I don’t recall the source, but I do remember when I first heard them. I was sitting on the living room floor, surrounded by a mess of papers, drawings, art supplies, books, and snacks as I worked on a project. Yes, creative people make big messes.

It was then as I began the “cleaning up” process that I fully understood this little saying. As I sorted through ideas and inspirations — keeping some and discarding others — my mess turned into a completed project.

I approach fiction from this perspective, too. I make a huge mess with story ideas all over the place. I scribble notes on odd scraps of paper. I grab research books to keep close at hand. Putting a story together does get very messy indeed.

For what it’s worth, my current project — The Sheriff Wore Skirts — is a disastrous mess at the moment. Even though I began with a synopsis for the publisher, now that I’m working on the story, I’m seeing new possibilities. New characters are emerging. New complications and conflicts are happening.

What do I do?  I let it happen. It’s wondrous fun.

To me, it’s much like working a jigsaw puzzle…only first, I have to create all the pieces.

I won’t use them all. As with any creative project, I’ll find myself throwing away things that aren’t needed, sorting out what’s right for the story, getting rid of ideas that don’t fit. Gradually, the mess will be picked up. The research books will go back on the shelf. The little scraps of paper will be tossed aside. A finished manuscript will come together, ready to go to the publisher.

Don’t ever get discouraged when your creative efforts result in a huge mess. That’s how it’s supposed to be. It’s a process, and making a mess — the bigger, the better — is the first step toward success. Celebrate all the mixed-up, confused ideas. Scatter the pieces of your own puzzle around so you can look at them from different angles. Pick things up and play with them. Enjoy the mess!

Then begin the cleaning-up process. Throw away or set aside things you know you don’t need. Find what’s most important and build around it. Add in possibilities that might work. Discard ones that don’t work.

Slowly and surely, as you clean up the mess — whether it’s an art project, a poem you’re writing, a recipe you’re cooking, or any other endeavor — you’ll see a beautiful creation shining through.



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A Thought for Today: The New Way to Happiness





Try something new every day.

One of the best ways to create excitement, energy, and happiness in your life is to follow this simple advice.  Each day, do something new.

There’s a incredible joy that comes from trying something for the first time, whether it’s a new food, a new activity, or a new route to work. We make discoveries, we expand our horizons, we broaden our mind through each new thing we do.

Feeling stuck in a rut? Try something new.

Got a problem to solve? Try a new approach…or a new attitude.

Looking for a dream? Try turning in a new direction. You might like what you find.

Sure, there’s comfort in familiarity and old ways have a place in our life. We need to balance them with a daily dose of “new”. It will keep us alive and keep us always looking ahead.

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A Thought for Today: Little Things





Sometimes the smallest things take up the most room in your heart.

We’ve been brought up in a culture that says “bigger is better”.  We tend to look down on and scoff at “little things”.

In truth, it’s the little things in life that can bring us the most pleasure.

A little smile.

A tiny hand holding ours.

One quiet moment in the midst of a busy day.

So often in life, it’s the little things that make the biggest difference. Gathering your courage and taking one chance can be enough to set you on the course to your dreams. One step forward along the path will move you closer to what you want for your future.

One positive thought can change your life, and one kind word can change the life of another.

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A Thought for Today: Creating Yourself





Life isn’t about finding yourself.

Life is about creating yourself.

George Bernard Shaw


“Finding oneself” has become a bit of a cliche in our times, and while it always sounds like good advice, the truth is, we’re never lost. We’re always right here with ourselves, and most likely, we’re where we’re supposed to be.

Where we are at any given moment is the result of many things: choices we’ve made, thoughts and beliefs we hold, our dreams, our desires, and our willingness to pursue them. We might not always like where we are, but it’s not because we are lost. It’s because we’ve lost sight of who we can be.

Life is filled with wondrous possibilities, and each new day brings opportunities for us to create the future we want to live. It doesn’t matter where we’ve been in the past, nor does it matter where we are today. Wherever we are in life, it can become a starting point. We can begin the journey toward tomorrow and all we hope to be.

Create the life you want to live.



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A Thought for Today: Dream Big

When you dream...


I’ve been thinking a lot lately about dreams. We’re reminded every day of the need to have a dream.  Go to Google, plug in “quotes about dreams”, and you’ll quickly come up with over 95 million results.

Yes, dreams — and our pursuit of them — are important. They’re part of who we are, part of what brings us the happiness and the sense of accomplishment we all need.

Maybe now in this age of “internet motivation” it’s no longer enough to have a dream. Perhaps what we should focus on are reminders of how powerful dreams can be, and most of all, how important it is that we dream big.

Don’t settle for little dreams. Let them serve as stepping stones to bigger dreams. Celebrate each small accomplishment, but don’t stop there. Keep moving. Keep following your heart. Always keep dreaming.


How big are YOUR dreams?


The Game of Life

What’s the question for today? I don’t know yet. I’m sitting here in MLWR — my little writing room — with my little “Questions and Answers” book on my lap. I’m enjoying a quiet moment before I open it and turn to today’s date.

I love to wonder about the question. Will it be something amusing? Something fun to answer? Or will I find myself face-to-face with a difficult, challenging issue in my life? Will answering it embarrass me?

Opening this little book is both exciting and frightening. What will today’s question be?

Oh, boy. It’s a crazy, fill-in-the-blank question.

Today you destroyed___________________.


I can honestly say, “nothing…so far.”  It’s only 5:15 AM, so I haven’t had much time for destruction.

PiratesLooking back over the last 24 hours, however, I can actually find quite a few things I destroyed. Yesterday afternoon, a grandson and I turned on the Wii and spent several hours playing Pirates of the Caribbean, and I happily bashed boxes, crates, furniture — and yes, a few Lego people, too.

In the process, we also “destroyed” a few Cherry Ice Popsicles. He loves the treats I’ve been making — and yes, you can watch for more recipes coming soon.

Mario_Party_8We also played a Mario Party game.  It was my first time playing, and I found it both frustrating and fun. Video games move quickly — especially with a 9-year-old at the controls. It was difficult to keep up with him, and for several mini-games, the contest was over before I’d even figured out what I was supposed to do.

There was a little destruction in the Mario game, too: a bit of paint-ball shooting, attempts to block opponents (both real-life and computer-generated) from achieving goals, and, inevitably, a little crushing disappointment at not always winning.

Yes, folks, I’m a mean grandmother. I don’t let the grandkids win. In the Mario game, I took first place in a “float-your-boat-down-the river” mini-game, and I won another, as well. For anyone who’s played these games before and who is familiar with the characters, I was playing as “Daisy”. She’s not the modest sort, I learned. After each victory she loudly proclaimed, “I am the winner!”

Overall, Daisy did come out in first place, even after the random”bonus stars” were awarded. I saw the let-down in our grandson’s eyes. I heard the touch of sadness in his voice. Although some people disagree with me, I viewed it as a learning experience, an opportunity to remind him that “we can’t always win.”

It’s true, not just with video games, board games, or card games, but in life. Sometimes, we lose.

The ability to accept losses is important, I believe. Children grow stronger when they’re given opportunities to face little disappointments and rise above them. There’s no shame in losing when you’ve done your best. There’s certainly no shame in losing a game of chance where luck, not skill, is the winning factor.

In my opinion, what matters most in playing games is playing fairly.  Games are meant to be fun, not to serve as contests to see who’s better than another. Sometimes we’ll win, sometimes we’ll lose, and we need to know how to do both graciously.


It’s been said that life is a game. Whether you see it that way or not, the same principles apply.

  • Play fair.
  • Learn to lose.
  • Win with grace.


Thanks for visiting with me today.

I’d love to hear your thoughts.

Do you let children win at games?

And, by the way, what have you destroyed today?