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A Thought for Today: Peace of Mind

Peace of mind

There is no greater wealth in this world than peace of mind. 

I believe this is true. After all our struggles for riches and worldly success, we’ll always finds ourselves poor in spirit until we realize that real wealth — and happiness — comes from within. It comes from knowing who we are and being at peace with our self.

Life is best lived with balance and wholeness, and the curious thing is that we can only find peace of mind when we listen to our heart.

What is your heart telling you today?


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A Thought for Today: Change



If nothing ever changed, there would be no butterflies.

Sometimes we get stuck in ruts in life. Sometimes we feel that things will never change. Truthfully, changes are taking place around us — and within us — each day. Even though the positive changes we desire may seem slow in coming, we can recognize and celebrate every small step we take toward our goals.

Butterflies have long been a symbol of change and transformation. It’s amazing to see the process taking place.

Life caterpillars morphing into butterflies, we are continually in a process of becoming. We change, we grow, we learn. It’s not always easy, and sometimes we’ll struggle, but if we stay focused on the positive results we seek, we can become who and what we hope to be.


Who are you becoming?

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A Thought for Today: Choices


Life is the sum of all your choices – Albert Camus

Although we may sometimes feel as if life is something that happens to us, the truth is we play a role in creating our future through the choices we make. Each day, we make choices that affect our health, our happiness, our relationships.

Wise choices can bring us closer to the life we want; poor choices leave us struggling to get through each day.

Most of the time, we know what’s right. We know healthy foods are better for us than fattening desserts. We know it’s important to get enough rest. We know the importance of treating others with kindness. Yet time after time, we make choices we later regret.

At other times, we simply make wrong choices. Maybe we misjudged someone or something. Maybe we didn’t have all the information we needed. For whatever reason, our choice proved not to bring us the happiness we expected. It happens.

So make choices today that you won’t regret…and when you make a mistake, learn from it and make new choices for tomorrow.


What choices are you making today?

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Make a Mess!


I say these words over and over because they’re so very true. I don’t recall the source, but I do remember when I first heard them. I was sitting on the living room floor, surrounded by a mess of papers, drawings, art supplies, books, and snacks as I worked on a project. Yes, creative people make big messes.

It was then as I began the “cleaning up” process that I fully understood this little saying. As I sorted through ideas and inspirations — keeping some and discarding others — my mess turned into a completed project.

I approach fiction from this perspective, too. I make a huge mess with story ideas all over the place. I scribble notes on odd scraps of paper. I grab research books to keep close at hand. Putting a story together does get very messy indeed.

For what it’s worth, my current project — The Sheriff Wore Skirts — is a disastrous mess at the moment. Even though I began with a synopsis for the publisher, now that I’m working on the story, I’m seeing new possibilities. New characters are emerging. New complications and conflicts are happening.

What do I do?  I let it happen. It’s wondrous fun.

To me, it’s much like working a jigsaw puzzle…only first, I have to create all the pieces.

I won’t use them all. As with any creative project, I’ll find myself throwing away things that aren’t needed, sorting out what’s right for the story, getting rid of ideas that don’t fit. Gradually, the mess will be picked up. The research books will go back on the shelf. The little scraps of paper will be tossed aside. A finished manuscript will come together, ready to go to the publisher.

Don’t ever get discouraged when your creative efforts result in a huge mess. That’s how it’s supposed to be. It’s a process, and making a mess — the bigger, the better — is the first step toward success. Celebrate all the mixed-up, confused ideas. Scatter the pieces of your own puzzle around so you can look at them from different angles. Pick things up and play with them. Enjoy the mess!

Then begin the cleaning-up process. Throw away or set aside things you know you don’t need. Find what’s most important and build around it. Add in possibilities that might work. Discard ones that don’t work.

Slowly and surely, as you clean up the mess — whether it’s an art project, a poem you’re writing, a recipe you’re cooking, or any other endeavor — you’ll see a beautiful creation shining through.




The Game of Life

What’s the question for today? I don’t know yet. I’m sitting here in MLWR — my little writing room — with my little “Questions and Answers” book on my lap. I’m enjoying a quiet moment before I open it and turn to today’s date.

I love to wonder about the question. Will it be something amusing? Something fun to answer? Or will I find myself face-to-face with a difficult, challenging issue in my life? Will answering it embarrass me?

Opening this little book is both exciting and frightening. What will today’s question be?

Oh, boy. It’s a crazy, fill-in-the-blank question.

Today you destroyed___________________.


I can honestly say, “nothing…so far.”  It’s only 5:15 AM, so I haven’t had much time for destruction.

PiratesLooking back over the last 24 hours, however, I can actually find quite a few things I destroyed. Yesterday afternoon, a grandson and I turned on the Wii and spent several hours playing Pirates of the Caribbean, and I happily bashed boxes, crates, furniture — and yes, a few Lego people, too.

In the process, we also “destroyed” a few Cherry Ice Popsicles. He loves the treats I’ve been making — and yes, you can watch for more recipes coming soon.

Mario_Party_8We also played a Mario Party game.  It was my first time playing, and I found it both frustrating and fun. Video games move quickly — especially with a 9-year-old at the controls. It was difficult to keep up with him, and for several mini-games, the contest was over before I’d even figured out what I was supposed to do.

There was a little destruction in the Mario game, too: a bit of paint-ball shooting, attempts to block opponents (both real-life and computer-generated) from achieving goals, and, inevitably, a little crushing disappointment at not always winning.

Yes, folks, I’m a mean grandmother. I don’t let the grandkids win. In the Mario game, I took first place in a “float-your-boat-down-the river” mini-game, and I won another, as well. For anyone who’s played these games before and who is familiar with the characters, I was playing as “Daisy”. She’s not the modest sort, I learned. After each victory she loudly proclaimed, “I am the winner!”

Overall, Daisy did come out in first place, even after the random”bonus stars” were awarded. I saw the let-down in our grandson’s eyes. I heard the touch of sadness in his voice. Although some people disagree with me, I viewed it as a learning experience, an opportunity to remind him that “we can’t always win.”

It’s true, not just with video games, board games, or card games, but in life. Sometimes, we lose.

The ability to accept losses is important, I believe. Children grow stronger when they’re given opportunities to face little disappointments and rise above them. There’s no shame in losing when you’ve done your best. There’s certainly no shame in losing a game of chance where luck, not skill, is the winning factor.

In my opinion, what matters most in playing games is playing fairly.  Games are meant to be fun, not to serve as contests to see who’s better than another. Sometimes we’ll win, sometimes we’ll lose, and we need to know how to do both graciously.


It’s been said that life is a game. Whether you see it that way or not, the same principles apply.

  • Play fair.
  • Learn to lose.
  • Win with grace.


Thanks for visiting with me today.

I’d love to hear your thoughts.

Do you let children win at games?

And, by the way, what have you destroyed today?


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A Thought for Today: One Small Step


The secret to reaching your dreams


I love this inspiring reminder. Often, one more step is all it takes to make a dream come true. Yet even if your dreams are still far away, the secret to reaching this is, indeed, to keep moving  closer every day.

It may be a small little step, or it may be a giant leap. You may advance with confidence; you may move quietly and cautiously. You might even stumble now and then, but it’s all right. Pick yourself up and keep going.

It’s the forward motion that matters.

One step leads to another, and that’s how dreams come true.


Take a step toward YOUR dream today!


Keep it Simple

One of the most important things I’ve learned over the course of my life is the wisdom of keeping things simple.  I don’t know why it is, but we humans have a tendency to overcomplicate our lives. Why do you think that happens? I’ve pondered over it a bit, and I haven’t come up with any good answers.

Speaking of answers, perhaps you’ve heard of “Occam’s Razor” or “Ockham’s Razor” as it’s sometimes spelled. If you’re not familiar with the concept, please don’t look it up online. If you do, you run the risk of stumbling across this monstrous definition from Merriam-Webster:

…a scientific and philosophic rule that entities should not be multiplied unnecessarily which is interpreted as requiring that the simplest of competing theories be preferred to the more complex or that explanations of unknown phenomena be sought first in terms of known quantities.

Egads! What in the heck is that supposed to mean?

Despite the mumbo-jumbo and scientific jargon, the answer is simple. Really. The principle of Occam’s Razor is that, as often as not, the simple answer is usually right. It’s a philosophical concept that begs us not to complicate matters unnecessarily. William of Occam, a 14th-century Franciscan friar, was advising folks to “keep it simple.”

Although his thoughts were directed toward philosophers grappling with metaphysical theories — according to Alan Baker, at least — I believe the rule can be understood and applied in the context of everyday life.

Recently I came across this excellent visual reminder of the need to keep things simple.
Yes, it really is that simple.  Life isn’t meant to be a struggle. It’s not intended to be fraught with complications. Let’s save the drama for fiction — where it rightfully belongs — and enjoy the simple pleasures of an uncomplicated life.


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Why do we complicate so many things?