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The Game of Life


What’s the question for today? I don’t know yet. I’m sitting here in MLWR — my little writing room — with my little “Questions and Answers” book on my lap. I’m enjoying a quiet moment before I open it and turn to today’s date.

I love to wonder about the question. Will it be something amusing? Something fun to answer? Or will I find myself face-to-face with a difficult, challenging issue in my life? Will answering it embarrass me?

Opening this little book is both exciting and frightening. What will today’s question be?

Oh, boy. It’s a crazy, fill-in-the-blank question.

Today you destroyed___________________.


I can honestly say, “nothing…so far.”  It’s only 5:15 AM, so I haven’t had much time for destruction.

PiratesLooking back over the last 24 hours, however, I can actually find quite a few things I destroyed. Yesterday afternoon, a grandson and I turned on the Wii and spent several hours playing Pirates of the Caribbean, and I happily bashed boxes, crates, furniture — and yes, a few Lego people, too.

In the process, we also “destroyed” a few Cherry Ice Popsicles. He loves the treats I’ve been making — and yes, you can watch for more recipes coming soon.

Mario_Party_8We also played a Mario Party game.  It was my first time playing, and I found it both frustrating and fun. Video games move quickly — especially with a 9-year-old at the controls. It was difficult to keep up with him, and for several mini-games, the contest was over before I’d even figured out what I was supposed to do.

There was a little destruction in the Mario game, too: a bit of paint-ball shooting, attempts to block opponents (both real-life and computer-generated) from achieving goals, and, inevitably, a little crushing disappointment at not always winning.

Yes, folks, I’m a mean grandmother. I don’t let the grandkids win. In the Mario game, I took first place in a “float-your-boat-down-the river” mini-game, and I won another, as well. For anyone who’s played these games before and who is familiar with the characters, I was playing as “Daisy”. She’s not the modest sort, I learned. After each victory she loudly proclaimed, “I am the winner!”

Overall, Daisy did come out in first place, even after the random”bonus stars” were awarded. I saw the let-down in our grandson’s eyes. I heard the touch of sadness in his voice. Although some people disagree with me, I viewed it as a learning experience, an opportunity to remind him that “we can’t always win.”

It’s true, not just with video games, board games, or card games, but in life. Sometimes, we lose.

The ability to accept losses is important, I believe. Children grow stronger when they’re given opportunities to face little disappointments and rise above them. There’s no shame in losing when you’ve done your best. There’s certainly no shame in losing a game of chance where luck, not skill, is the winning factor.

In my opinion, what matters most in playing games is playing fairly.  Games are meant to be fun, not to serve as contests to see who’s better than another. Sometimes we’ll win, sometimes we’ll lose, and we need to know how to do both graciously.


It’s been said that life is a game. Whether you see it that way or not, the same principles apply.

  • Play fair.
  • Learn to lose.
  • Win with grace.


Thanks for visiting with me today.

I’d love to hear your thoughts.

Do you let children win at games?

And, by the way, what have you destroyed today?



Author: christinacoleromance

Christina Cole believes in the power of love. She writes romance novels with characters you'll care about and remember long after the end of the story.

2 thoughts on “The Game of Life

  1. As a teacher I saw many children who couldn’t handle it being “the best”. If they lost at a PE game, the other people cheated. If someone got a higher grade, they cheated. The philosophy of no Fs so no one feels bad is so wrong. Don’t do anything still don’t give them a zero. This teaches them nothing and supports the entitlement ideal. When my daughter was in 1st grade, they had the ‘warm fuzzies’. Given so no one would feel bad. You are right they need to learn they can’t win all the time and to be gracious about it.

    • I know my opinions aren’t always popular, but I think children do learn much more from an occasional loss than from “too much” winning — especially when they haven’t worked to achieve a prize. Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts as a teacher.

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